“I personally dealt with this challenge five years ago.”
So many articles have been written lately on the serious topic of how to get your confidence back after a job loss. Those of you who have read my e-book, Pink Slip Paradise, know I personally dealt with this challenge five years ago. Most articles express the similar thoughts. They deal with the internal negative emotions of avoiding depression and isolation, taking care of yourself physically, staying focused and resetting goals. All of these sentiments are internally focused to keep you from jumping off the cliff.
The dominant theme in these articles seems not to be a loss of income but a focus on the stress of losing your identity, the loss of a routine and a feeling of losing purposeful activity and a social network. Now if your glass is half empty, it’s probably easy to fall into the abyss of “Woe is me, I’m in such a bad situation,” blah, blah and blah.
Let’s look at the true situation you are in. By no fault of your own, other than being experienced, knowledgeable and pretty successful in your field (i.e. too old and too expensive), you find yourself job free. You should probably celebrate the loss of your mundane routine; no more rush hour traffic! Heck, you probably didn’t even like most of the people you worked with, and climbing the corporate ladder had become such a drag. Now should be the time of your life! A time when you are still young, healthy and energized enough to take on the world.
Why not take this opportunity make the changes in your life you’ve always wanted?
I only found a couple of articles that even mentioned what I think is the absolute most important thing you can do to learn how to get your confidence back after a job loss; focus on the opportunities ahead of you!
A recent Wall Street Journal article, Laid Off? Rethink Goals, describes how being laid off can be a blessing in disguise. Being laid off gives you the chance to switch to a job that’s more personally and professionally fulfilling.
In a work.chrom.com article by Scott Thompson, How to Regain Confidence After a Job Loss, he talks about taking time to do something you love and expanding your horizons. Most of us have dreamed of one day learning to paint, play the guitar or maybe even spending some time with your wife learning the art of ballroom dancing. Whatever your dream and desire, you are now free to do it.
Over 70% of Americans say they want to become business owners. Only 1 in 10 ever does. You’ve been given a second chance in life at a time when you can take advantage of it. Don’t waste this one.
It’s certainly easier to dwell on the loss, but that is wasted emotion and is not healthy. Take the time to turn that lemon you’ve been handed into sweet lemonade and make the most of the opportunity you’ve been given.
So, what actions do you take to get your confidence back?
Now, if the lemonade still leaves your glass half empty, review my compilation of all the great advice I found on the subject of how to get confidence back.
- Deal With Your Emotions
- Don’t let your job status define you.
- Know Your Accomplishments and What You’ve Learned
- Allow time to heal.
- Stay future-focused.
- Don’t Drift
- Prioritize self-care.
- Exercise is a great way to burn off stress
- Stay away from sugar and carbs
- Alcohol in moderation
- Use positive affirmation.
- Maintain/Develop a routine.
- Treat finding a job as a job. Not having control of your job search can have a negative effect on your self-esteem.
- Avoid Isolation – reconnect with family and friends
- Tap your network.
- Surround yourself with positive people
- Find a supportive network. Get involved with an out placement firm
- Meet other job seekers.
- Help others.
- Rethink Goals (lower your goals?)